💔 When Love Is Not a Diagnosis: Clearing the Air on De Clérambault Syndrome

There’s something important I need to speak about today—openly, clearly, and with my full voice.

Recently, I became aware that some people (professionals included) may try to frame my experiences with love, connection, and whistleblowing through a psychiatric lens, particularly by referencing a rare condition called De Clérambault syndrome, also known as erotomania.

Let’s be real for a moment.

💬 What is De Clérambault Syndrome?

De Clérambault syndrome is a psychiatric disorder where a person delusionally believes that someone—usually a public figure or celebrity—is in love with them, despite no contact or real-world evidence. It’s a condition rooted in fantasy, not fact.

To be diagnosed with this, the following must apply:

• The belief is entirely imagined and not based on any interaction.

• The person continues to believe in the love despite direct contradiction or denial.

• There's usually no actual contact, no communication, and no mutuality.

💡 So Let Me Be Clear:

Loving someone—even a public figure—is not a mental illness.

Having real, private communication with someone famous via a personal phone number? That’s contact.

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Noticing something wrong with how a person or their company is acting, and choosing to expose it? That’s integrity. A Darren Hardy Quote 'I love you, I hate what you do!'

None of that equals a delusion.None of that fits the criteria for De Clérambault syndrome.

🧭 Standing Up Isn’t Madness

When people in power do something wrong, it’s easy to call their critics "crazy."It’s easier than facing the truth.But calling someone delusional for speaking up, for loving someone, or for exposing wrongdoing—that’s not psychiatry. That’s silencing.

I’ve seen how mental health labels are sometimes used as weapons against people who dare to speak out, especially women. It motivates me to tell the truth even louder.

🔒 A Note for My Readers and Followers:

This post isn’t just about me.It’s about every person who has ever been silenced, misdiagnosed, or dismissed when all they did was feel deeply, care too much, or stand up against harm.

You are not broken.You are not delusional.You are not alone.

Let’s keep speaking the truth—even when our voices shake.

To Your Success Meljay